Last week, a friend of mine Tweeted (and #fb’ed) asking about the etiquette of a friend request from a person he neither knows nor has mutual friends. My gut reaction? DE-NY.
Our classmate, Nate Granzow, had the same advice but with a different experience: “I had a guy send me the same thing the other day. He followed up with a message about how he was going to fuck my life up.”
…That’s a worst case scenario, but seriously: denying a Facebook friendship, a Twitter follow–or ‘worse,’ the dreaded defriending–can be a touchy subject.
CNN reports that recent research shows that our “digital egos” can bruise just as easily as our actual egos do, if not more:
“People tend to think that these relationships are trivial and not very deep, but this is what we’re moving towards, having a lot of our communications play out over the Internet,” Purdue University social psychologist Kip Williams said. “That’s the way it’s becoming; this is how we interpret our worth. People care how many [online] friends they have.”
A third-party website called Qwitter has even been created to allow Twitter users to track who has unfollowed them and after which post it occurred….Yikes.
- Under what circumstances do you unfollow or defriend someone? What’s the etiquette?
- What’s your reaction to being the unfollowed or defriended?
- Do you agree or disagree that online friendships is the direction our society is moving toward?